When you are deeply in love and you believe you have found your soulmate, your one and only, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with....well, if things don't turn out the way you had imagined, heartbreak can be traumatic and actually pretty devastating. If you are going through a period of heartbreak, you must accept the fact that life goes on and so must you. Face those feelings of rejection and anger by acknowledging them, dealing with them, and then achieving closure. The most important thing is to get in touch with reality.
However, the sad thing is, many of us do not want to accept the fact that life goes on, because we seriously do not think it can. The truth is, no one wants to face these feelings much less deal with them. I am one of those people who doesn't want closure, because in my opinion closure means something has ended, when in this situation the last thing I want is for it to be over. As far as a reality check is concerned, believe me, I was slapped in the face pretty damn hard, then I am pretty sure I tripped over my own two feet and fell flat on my face, only to find a puddle of mud underneath me.
People suffering from heartbreak find their body and mind reacting strangely even in normal situations. They experience mood swings. They avoid places and people that bring up nostalgic memories. And heartbreak songs make them weep uncontrollably. Is that truly a bad thing? I mean, doesn't that mean that maybe, just maybe you were "in love"? Could it mean that you finally found someone worth feeling this way for?
I read this really amazing quote:
Love and relationships are truly one of the most paradoxical aspects of being human. For it is in love that we find the greatest of strengths and the deepest of sorrows. Love can seem to be so fleeting and unachievable yet it remains well within our reach if we only learn how to embrace it’s power. To experience true love, we must be willing to open ourselves up and sacrifice part of our heart and part of our soul. We must be willing to give of ourselves freely, and we must be willing to suffer. It is only when we expose our inner selves to the white hot flame of rejection, that love can burn so brightly as to join to souls, melding the two into one, creating a bond that joins forever. It is from this bond that we draw strength eternal and power ever lasting. It is in this thing that we call love that we find the means to achieve greatness, both in ourselves and in our lives.
Love is such a wonderful feeling, and if you are lucky enough to obtain it, then you should hold on to it and never let go, however please be careful that you do not hold on too tightly. You can suffocate love, and in doing so you can lose it forever.
One thing I get so tired of hearing, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder...". Who believes this?! People who are happily married and have never been left, that's who!
But in all fairness, what if that love is worth waiting for? What if absence, distance, even separation is a good thing? What if it is healthy?
If love is real, and someone can fall in love, then isn't that person worth waiting a life time for, if love only comes but once in a lifetime?
That is something I have personally had to take into consideration recently. If you believe you are in love with someone, and you believe they are the one you are meant to spend your life with, then don't you think you should wait for them? Can we honestly put a time limit on love? I have heard that "true love will stand the test of time", and I am going to do my best to prove that to be correct.
Of course, I could take the easy way out, and so could you... when love and life don't go your way, it is easy to give up and give in. Things get tough and hard to bare, and when you love someone more than life itself, you want them to love you back. Life and